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“Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity.” Psalm 133:1
– From The Bench –
SHOULD I MAKE MY SON PLAY?
This resource stems from a question submitted to the Ask PCA blog. Responses come from our experts, including PCA Trainers, who lead live group workshops for coaches, parents, administrators, and student-athletes.
“My son is a sophomore who hoped to make the varsity baseball team but was kept on the JV so he could be their top starting pitcher and fully develop into a varsity-caliber starter. My son is so disappointed that he does not want to play at all this coming season. Should I make him play?”
CA Response by Eric Eisendrath, Lead Trainer–New York –
“I recommend letting your son make his own decision. While it is difficult to watch your child make a decision he might regret, in this instance, it is his choice. If you step back and allow him to process the situation for himself, it is possible that he will realize how much he enjoys baseball, values his relationships there, and that his chance to play baseball in high school will end if he chooses not to play now. You can remind your son that even Michael Jordan did not make the varsity basketball team his sophomore year and that often players actually improve much more over a season when they are leading a JV team, rather than riding the bench on the varsity team. You can suggest that your son focus on cultivating his “Teachable Spirit” so that he learns and develops so much that he will be prepared for success as a varsity starter in his junior and senior years. And if he does that, he might even find himself on the varsity before this season is over. Help your son think this through by asking him what he would do with the time he normally spends on baseball and what else he might do that could be more rewarding. That may cause him to realize he really wants to play, or it may lead him to get involved with something else that will enrich his future life. With those factors in mind, hopefully, he will choose the course you desire. However, it will be selected because he wants to, not as the result of a mandate from you.”
As parents, it can be hard to sit back and watch our kid make; what we think is a huge mistake. I mean, what do you do when you feel they are turning their back on their God-given abilities? Walk away from something you as a parent have poured time, effort, and especially money into, probably for years? Possibly even say they hate the sport they have been playing for what seems an eternity?
You can scream, you can cry, you can bargain, you can guilt trip, you can try anything and everything to change their mind, but in all honesty, the best thing to do is…
LET THEM DO IT!
You will cry,
you will lose sleep,
you will feel sick to your stomach,
you will worry,
and most of all, you will pray, but the best thing to do is…
LET THEM DO IT!
Life is the greatest teacher of all and sometimes learning the hard way is what it takes. You don’t have to like it, you don’t have to agree with it, but sometimes, you have to let them do it.
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