- September 2021by Linda Whiten
We watched as a couple of birds tirelessly built a nest, one twig and piece of grass at a time. We tried to keep them from building there, as 15 feet away, there are two trees that are taller than our two-story house, but they were relentless. So without permission, they built their nest on the bracket that holds up our security light above our garage door. No sooner did they build it, Momma was sitting on the nest, and we knew surely, there must be eggs inside the nest. In no time at all, there were chirping little babies. A reminder of God’s goodness and the cycle of life. Knowing what the average bird nest looks like, I thought of the way God has given the birds the instinct to design a nest to cradle and protect the eggs. It has borders on the sides, which serve as a boundary to keep the eggs, and eventually, baby birds from falling out of the nest.
Here are the definitions according to Webster’s 1828 Dictionary:
A border is the outer edge of anything, the extreme part or surrounding line; the confine or exterior limit of a country.
A boundary is a limit; a bound. This word is thus used as synonymously with bound. But the real sense is, a visible mark designating a limit.
Just like with our children, I thought about what happens if we don’t implement borders and boundaries for them. Our children will not learn to “stay away from the edge,” which
represents danger in some form or another.
“Violence shall no more be heard in thy land, wasting nor destruction within thy borders; but thou shalt call they walls Salvation, and thy gates Praise.” Isaiah 60:18
Only two days after the birds started chirping, we noticed one had fallen out of the nest and was dead in the driveway. It was then we noticed the design flaw of the nest. It was flat, and not curved with sides like a typical nest. My husband and I worked on a ladder to “fix” the nest. We put the two remaining babies back in the nest and put a cardboard support underneath in case they rolled out again. Unfortunately, the next morning, baby bird number two was dead in the driveway. We never found baby bird number three, but the parents abandoned the nest.
Hey parents, how is your nest? This story of the devastation of the family of birds should serve as an example for you. Your children need you to instill in them borders and boundaries.
Remember the protection of your children hangs in the balance.
“He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.”
Help make this more interactive so we can reach out one to another. Let me know what some of your borders and boundaries that you have in place for your family.
- August 2021by Linda Whiten
priority – permanence- purpose
AUGUST IS HERE, and with it comes all the excitement of the upcoming school year. New books, curriculum, classes, and all the things you need to make your homeschooling a success. As you go through your list of must-haves, I would like to challenge you to include a checklist for the leadership of your home school. That’s right, call the staff (Dad and Mom) together to ensure everyone is on the same page; call it a teacher in-service day. Set apart some time to discuss your goals and vision for each student. Here are some items that you may want to discuss at your “in-service day”:
The leadership team needs to have very strong and clear communications. Make sure to schedule time to plan, not only your homeschool, but your downtimes and your time alone. As leaders, it is imperative to have purpose and be intentional. While you’re at it, intentionally make sure to reconnect and make each other a priority. Your marriage is the component that needs to be stable; a united approach will be more impactful to your children… We are stronger together.
Based on Genesis 2:21-24, there are three factors to consider about marriage:
1. The Priority of Marriage Priority: the fact or condition of being regarded or treated as more important. It has been said that the highest priority of human relationships is not parent-to-child or child-to-parent, but spouse-to-spouse. With this directive, as parents, we must be preparing our children to leave us. Like the eagle, we must stir the nest, encouraging them to go out and have their own homes. These eaglets may not leave, but there comes a time when they must fly! As moms and dads, we don’t like the thought of having an empty nest, so we keep it feathered and make it easy for the little baby eaglets and never really teach them how to fly. We hurt our eagles when we do this, so prepare them for what lies ahead.
2. The Permanence of Marriage Permanence: the state of quality of lasting or remaining unchanged indefinitely. Verse 23 gives further instructions to the man to “cleave unto his wife.” The translation from Hebrew gives the idea of welding or gluing. In spite of what people think, it is not their own doing to put themselves together; it is God. “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Mark 10:9 Marriage is permanent; that whole “til death do us part” of the vows is real. No marriage is exempt; they all have problems. Those couples who stay married and those who get divorced, basically have the same types of issues. The difference is not in the issues but in their commitment. Rid your mind of the idea of divorce. Take your scissors and cut that word out of your dictionary.
3. The Purpose of Marriage: Purpose: the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists. Finally, (Genesis 2:24) says, “and they shall become one flesh.” This represents a more complete union; physical, mental, and spiritual. Marriage is a romance, and in the first chapter, both the hero and the heroine die, so they can become one new person. This forges the ability to make unified decisions. This does not mean we always will… but we can. When the unified team fails, remember God is a good Father and He is the God of forgiveness. Extend that to your spouse and you will see the beauty of God’s plan coming together. Remember, the first miracle Jesus performed was at a wedding when He turned water into wine (John 2:1-11), and He is still performing miracles. When you get right down to it, every magnificent marriage is a miracle because it is a union of man, a woman, and God. It won’t always be easy, but it will always be worth it and your homeschool depends on it.
Send me your favorite way to keep communications strong with your spouse. I would love to share ideas for all those who read this letter. Stay Strong & Unified! Blessings,
I want to let you know that I truly appreciate this letter. The “in-service” approach made me smile, and think…
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